I can remember when they called 15 years ago; I was NOT ready and I was not ok with what they told me. How in the world can a grown adult not know where they started? But apparently I didn’t. My dad talked to me first. I knew it was hard for him to tell me and he tried to explain why they didn’t tell me. So – 15 years ago, at the age of 29, I find out I’m adopted. It was shocking enough to hear it from my dad and I thought that was it. Then C2Adopt called too with more. The woman who gave birth to me asked them to find me! They had already talked to my dad, which I guess is why he had to tell me finally. It was too much, it was too hard and I just wasn’t going to spend any more time being stressed about it. I told them not to contact me again. It’s been 15 years…I thought, there is no way they are going to let me change my mind now; they probably won’t even remember the situation or the case; probably have to start all over. And now, I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I’m actually worried about my first “mother” – maybe since I said no, will she now say no? It was a huge risk but I had to do it. I needed to know the whole story, I was finally ready. C2Adopt not only remembered the case, the worker was still there! She said of course she would ask my birth mom if she was still interested. And (huge relief) she was! I couldn’t have done it 15 years ago but thank goodness they could still help this many years later.
We were so overwhelmed when we called! There is so much information about adoption we didn’t know where to start. We called C2Adopt because some friends suggested them and we kept hearing their name. I couldn’t believe I got a real person on the phone AND she took loads of time answering our questions. We were really nervous about open adoption; we weren’t sure at all if we could do that. Their training made a big difference. We see adoption completely different now. I never thought I would look forward to building a relationship with my child’s first mother, but now I do! And they give us so much support and let us decide what we want to do to find a possible placement; we are not stuck with just waiting for them to find something. I love being empowered to make this happen; I love being able to know I can turn to them for honest feedback and guidance. It’s not an easy choice, but they are making it easier.